Note: This is a blog I wrote for Sacred Hour, and so I wrote it like I am Sacred Hour.
Good morning my babies,
With Halloween behind us and Thanksgiving right around the corner, it won’t be long before we are bombarded with holiday cheer. When you live in a gloomy climate, the holidays can be a welcomed departure from the gray dreariness as everyone begins to deck the halls with coziness.
But for many, this time of year is a heart wrenching reminder of what they’ve lost, or perhaps never had. The lack of sun and warmth eats away at their sanity and they sink into a depression.
For those of us who suffer from depression, whether it be seasonal or otherwise, we know it often feels like there’s no climbing out of that hole. People who have never experienced this kind of darkness make well intended, but often useless and often frustrating suggestions. Lavender oil and exercise isn’t going to fix this one Karen!
So what can you do to ease the pain of simply existing during this time? We have some ideas, having experienced it ourselves from time to time.
Accept it. There’s nothing worse than feeling sad and feeling like you have to change or fix it. Allow yourself to settle in, because what you’re feeling isn’t sustainable and it is not going to last forever. Hunker down, and let the routines of life get you through.
Be around other humans. Cook in someone else’s kitchen so to speak. It can be helpful simply to be around people who appear to feel normal. Confide in them. When they ask, “how are you?”—don’t respond with the obligatory “fine”. Feel free to get real; tell them, “I FEEL WEIRD”. You’ll be amazed at the connections you can forge simply by being open and honest with people who very probably have experienced what you’re going through, and could be the one person who has the right thing to say.
Take care of yourself. We know this is often a privilege denied to many individuals—self care is truly a luxury if you have kids, a grueling job, bills to pay, etc. So if you can, ask your friends for help so you can make time for yourself. Sleep, eat what sounds good, do the things that sound the least awful. Come to Sacred Hour and let someone else take care of you for an hour or two. Breathe deeply in our steam room, have a glass of champagne and let us work out your tense muscles with our new offering, the Drunken Lotus. It might not cure your depression, but it certainly couldn’t hurt. Take baths, be in nature, and seek comfort wherever you can. It will be okay.
Seek professional care. At the end of the day, if all your coping mechanisms aren't working and you simply cannot manage, get some help. There are online resources like talkspace.com that are accessible and affordable, or your local university may offer free therapy. You can use natural medications like CBD oil, or turn to some true anti-depressant medication. There’s no shame in doing what you need to do to find some peace and contentment in your life.
We hope this helps a little. The holidays are hard, you should feel happy and perhaps you don’t. But your friends at Sacred Hour are here to commiserate and comfort with our touch.